Caught in a web of other people’s expectations

Trapped in other people's expectations

You have so many expectations to live up to that it’s easy to forget you have every right to want to live up to your own. Easy to forget that is if it wasn’t for that one very annoying and frankly extremely exhausting thing going on in your head. That endless inner conflict between what you SHOULD do and what you WANT to do!

It’s been a while since I read Bronnie Ware’s »The Top Five Regrets of the Dying«, but I’m always reminded of it when clients tell me about the battle that’s been raging in their heads for what seems like forever.

Like two people

They talk about one part of themselves telling them people expect them to do X, Y and Z and how it is impossible to disappoint them.

Or how they are obligated to.

Or how there are many very important and compelling reasons to do those things.

Even when they feel a lot of resentment or anger about it.

And they also tell me about that other part within themselves. The part that is talking about really wanting to do something else. Even if they don’t know exactly what that is.

It’s almost like they have two constantly bickering, bitter people in their heads.

Two people that have been heaving the same arguments at each other for so long that neither one is even listening anymore.

It’s an endless recycling of old information and arguments.

They’ve been going on in circles for so long they no longer see any way out.

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Caught in a web

They literally feel as though caught in a web of other people’s expectations!

That’s when I’m always reminded of the first of the five regrets Bronnie Ware mentions in her book:

‘I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me’

The difference being of course that – unlike the people Ms Ware writes about – my clients are still very much alive and intent on being so for a lot longer!

The difference also being that my clients can still do something about their situation.

Luckily there’s still time

No reason therefore for them to end up like those people dying with questions like “Why didn’t I just do what I wanted? Why did I let others rule my life? Why wasn’t I strong enough to stand up for myself?”

My clients still have time to bring peace to their inner conflict.

They still have time to break out of the endless cycle of familiar arguments and choose their own trail.

There is still time for them to realise they have every right to blaze down that trail!!

And like my clients, so have you!!!

When you’re ready to discover how to bring peace to your inner conflict caused by other people’s expectations and start blazing your own trail, then join me in a FREE 5-day challenge for successful women who find themselves wandering the wrong trail!

As always …

Go dare greatly!